“My spirit gets nourished in faraway places. Sometimes I wonder if it’s a biological need, perhaps a biological flaw that compels me to seek the excitement and challenge that comes of being in a place where nobody knows me. Other times I think that my compulsion to settle into communities that are different from the ones I know is related to my passion for experiential learning. I learn best and most happily by doing, touching, sharing, tasting. When I’m somewhere I’ve never been before, learning goes on all day, every day.” ― Rita Golden Gelman, Tales of a Female Nomad: Living at Large in the World
I read this the other day and it made me feel something inside, that warm butterfly like feeling I usually get when i’m inspired by something, I could relate to it so much. I wanted to share it with you, hoping it’ll touch your spirit too and give you some major travel inspiration.
Guys lets get really real about solo travel and how it is the best thing you can do for yourself. Are you scared to travel solo? perhaps you think its totally impossible to go without your girlfriends or boyfriend?
If I had a quid for every time I have been asked “wasn’t you scared when you went to live alone in a foreign country” or ” you cant do that alone its too dangerous for a gal like you” I would be well on my way to my dream trip to Australia.
What is with the stigma of (especially women) travelling alone? There can be abit more of a to do when a woman sets out by herself on travel trip don’t ya think? I understand there are potential dangers to a woman traveling alone but (a very big but) my honeys, there are dangers every day, every time we cross a road, get on a plane…you get my point. Do not let this stop you..ever.
In response to the above questions I always reply ” um yes I was scared, petrified actually, but I turn that feeling into adrenaline and excitement, and if I didn’t do these things, I would wallow in my own regret for years to come” to which I usually receive a nod of agreement as if to say “you’re abit mad but fair play”
Of course this isn’t everyone’s outlook but I do seem to stumble across this attitude alot. I haven’t always been this way though, before going to university, I did not even know you could really travel let alone solo. I never even thought about it because it was never an option in my family to do that. I am the odd one out on my family for sure, never content with the ‘typical’ way of life that my mum and dad are oh so happy living.
I started to get the travel bug in my first year at uni and I would ask/beg friends to come and travel with me during summer and it never really happened which resulted in a pretty disappointed me. I waited for people to say that they would come with me, getting upset and discouraged when plans failed to happen. Eventually, I got tired of waiting for a companion to always accompany me and after a pretty big let down with travel plans, I decided screw it, I aint ever gonna wait for nobody again. And thats what I did. I lived for myself and followed my heart, with or without somebody. And this is what you should do. To all my honeys out there who are scared or nervous to travel alone but have that wanderlust bug – please please DONT BE! Do not give up YOUR dreams because your boyfriend / girlfriend or your best friend doesnt fancy it.
So let me tell you the kind of things that will happen once you start to travel solo:
You will meet all kinds of amazing, open minded people with diverse backgrounds
This is one of my favs when it comes to traveling alone, the people you meet! You can all be so different yet you have one thing in common, your love for travel. Another thing I love is that you have the freedom to move between groups of people, you don’t need to commit to being with anyone longer than you desire. How many of us go on two week holidays with our best friends to get there and realise that actually they can be pretty annoying when you suddenly spend every day together? Ha, I’ve been there so many times.
You become at one with yourself
When you’re in complete solitude you get to really know who you are, what you like and what you don’t. For our souls to grow we have to nurture ourselves and be happy alone, it is so important to just be happy with yourself. On my trip in Thailand, I discovered I actually love to get up really early and just sit on the beach in silence whilst the sun comes up… complete bliss to me.
You become fiercely independent and brave
This is an obvious one but when you are the only person making your decisions you progress outside of your comfort zone and do things you thought you never could. Basically you become like Xena the warrior princess without the fancy costume.
You realise posh possessions do not matter half as much
Paying £200 for a pair of posh shoes that you will get bored of in a month? Nope, you will start to think -hang on – for £200 I can travel for two weeks in Vietnam. The real wealth is in the memories we make and can look back on for years to come.
You realise that you might not just want to settle for ‘the norm’
Wow this happened to me on a massive scale, I know I will never be satisfied with staying and living in one place again. You awaken the adventurer in you. I will always have that need in me to want to see and live in other cultures, thats what is important to me.
Life isn’t meant to be lived in one place
The world is there to explore and it wants to be explored. I’ve never wanted a conventional life, always felt a need to escape. I’ve always wanted more than that, and it’s possible.
What more is there to say – with travel you feel truly free.
So go on gals (and guys) get out there, do not be afraid, say yes to everything and be open minded – we have one life, bloody well live IT!
What do you guys think? tell me about your solo travel trips or if you have any planned? INSPIRE ME.
You can read about my solo travel trips here
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